So, we had our meeting at Trey’s old school on Tuesday. I have to say I’m pretty frustrated and then some. He went through testing to see if he qualified for any services that might help him work through some of the issues he has been having. The gist of the meeting……..he’s an extremely bright boy (thanks and we were already aware of that!), he is easily frustrated and clearly in emotional distress, but since he hasn’t been that way for at least six months he doesn’t qualify for services but we really want him to return to school. Couldn’t they have told us that two months ago when we started this whole process? Here we were thinking he would qualify for services (because it is clear to everyone that he needs them) and could start with that after the holidays. The part that makes the least sense to me is that everyone agrees he is in emotional distress but we have to wait until he’s been that way for six whole months before they’ll do anything! Really!!!
I will give them credit where credit is due though. The team is incredibly kind and have been nothing but nice to all of us. They have been very patient with Trey and that can be difficult sometimes! Their goal is to get Trey back into school and have even offered to hire an aide to be with him throughout the day at least on a short-term basis. We discussed how we would have to meet again several times to plan his return, a new classroom, maybe only short days or a few days a week, the kind of language we would all use with him, etc. The problem with this is that nothing else has changed…..we haven’t figured anything out. He would have a designated person to be with him so the teacher could go on with the other students if he got upset and a behavioral specialist would observe once a week. So, basically we would be sending him back into an environment where he previously felt like he was a failure when nothing has changed….to be researched? I’m just extremely uncomfortable with that. I just cannot even come up with the right words to explain it.
I’ve been thinking and praying on all of this for almost a week now and still feel pretty much the same. I feel that with all of the things going on in our lives right now, this is what God wants for our family at the moment. As much as I’ve been praying for so long for another little one to come along, I’m beginning to see how God is and has been working in our situation. I am blessed to be able to stay at home and, with no other children, am able to focus on being a mom and teacher to my precious little boy who needs all of me right now. How long this season will last, I have no idea but I do know that God has provided and will continue to provide for my little family. I continue to pray for wisdom and guidance through this all and thank you all again for your prayers as well.
“Yet the Lord is faithful, and He will strengthen you and set you on a firm foundation….” 2 Thessalonians 3:3
“It is because of the Lord’s mercy and loving-kindness that we are not consumed, because His compassions fail not. They are new every morning; great and abundant is You stability and faithfulness.” Lamentations 3:22-23